Brand New Blogger

ByLisa Moorhouse

I’ve decided to try my hand at blogging. Since I’m brand new to this I’m totally open to constructive criticism! Feel free to comment or email lisa@notbalanced.com

So, why Not Balanced? Well I’m a busy mom who is doing her best to balance family, sports, farm, health & fitness, business, etc… Honestly it’s a struggle daily, so in my search for a catchy website name I thought Not Balanced described my life perfectly! Yes, I am attempting daily to find balance, but reality is that even if I get close, I have to start all over again tomorrow!

Some basic info on me for those who don’t know me:
I’m a mom of 3, Eli is 8 and Abigail and Isabella are my 5 year old twin girls. I have an amazing husband Corey, who I married in April 2012 (after I was widowed in March 2010). We have a 6 acre farm in Hudsonville, Michigan and at this moment we have 6 horses, 2 dogs, 2 indoor cats, 4 barn cats, 2 finches, 17 laying hens, a rooster, and some fish. 5 of our horses are Arabians, and we have an adorable weanling pony that I’m hoping my girls will love raising. Our dogs are a Doberman we just adopted in November and my son’s daisy dog who we’ve had since he was a tiny puppy. For the most part I’m a stay at home mom, but I also am part of a network marketing company that sells health care products (skin care/vitamins/supplements). I don’t have to work but the extra money is nice and we love the products ourselves so it’s a win-win.

I’m a dreamer, and a goal setter. I race my horses in endurance and push myself athletically, I’m currently training to run the Houston Marathon on January 18. My first and likely last marathon, it’s grueling, but I’ll be glad to say I did it! I used to love to write, still hoping someday to be able to finish a novel but thought blogging would be a good outlet for my writing needs while everything is so busy at home.

Looking forward to blogging some of my experiences with attempting balance in my life. Hopefully it’s entertaining/informative and enjoyable to read for you all.

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My mare Solace and I at AHAM endurance race in July 2014

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  • Sterilization Week

    ByLisa Moorhouse

    Nothing says “Merry Christmas” like spending a load of money with the vet. Yesterday Bobbi left for his new home after getting his blood pulled for a new coggins, and a shot. We figured if the vet was imagecoming anyways we might as well get some other things done and pulled a coggins on everyone else and Sid the weanling pony got his shots and had a little surgery.

    Sid is now a gelding. Yay! 🙂 Abby was in the stall watching the event, I warned her she may not want to watch but she insisted. She didn’t seem to have any issues until closer to the end and we got a good shot of her yuck face. The vet was awesome and even explained things to us all, he was great with Abby (he also has young kids at home). I honestly think the 2 vets we have out from Equine Medical in Lowell are the best horse vets I’ve had. They are great with the horses and with us. When we moved from Lowell there were not a lot of options available to us here without a long distance farm call charge, and Equine Medical is the most expensive (It’s about a 70 mile round trip), but we stuck imagewith them because we really like them over everyone else we’ve had experience with.

    Sid looked dead for a while in his stall after, he was up and moving around though when the vet was ready to leave and he spent the night in the stall last night. Spoiled. He has a big stall all to himself, a bag full of hay, big bucket of water and has had grain 3x already. He still had a lot of hay this morning so he’ll probably be in there longer than the 24 hour prescribed stall rest just because he doesn’t seem bothered at all by having his food all to himself. I think if it were Dancer he’d be running circles in his stall, upset that no one else was inside with him, but Sid is happily munching away.

    From the horse vet yesterday to the dog vet this morning, Ellie got dropped off for her spay at 8am today. I ran out and dropped her off before Corey left for work so I wouldn’t have to drag the kids out first thing in the morning. She gets to spend the night there and we will pick her up tomorrow morning. It’ll be nice to have that done, I definitely don’t ever want to have to deal with a female dog in heat again. I don’t know how anyone can stand having a dog in their house during that. Yuck. Dealing with the doggy diapers was a pain on top of being gross, definitely not for me.

    So now every animal we own is sterilized except for Dancer, and of course the chickens. 😉

     

     

     

  • Who did it?

    ByLisa Moorhouse

    Corey and I passed on going out for NYE this year, instead we opted to go out on New Years Day. We got a great deal on a movie mystery dinner from living social and a friend that was also supposed to go got sick so we were able to get their tickets and my parents got to join us. It was a fun night and our first murder mystery dinner experience. We did go to a murder mystery Halloween party this year and it was super fun, but played out a lot differently than the dinners, it is what sprouted our interest in the dinner though. 🙂

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    We started off getting our photos taken, then we were seated with other couples at a table and that became our team. One person at each table (at least) got picked to be a suspect and play a role in the game, thankfully that was not me! The game got started and we ate our dinners in between times of “interviewing” where we would use play money and interview/bribe other suspects for secrets (clues). Some of the people dressed up for the theme, a 1950’s prom, but there were quite a few like us that just wore nice casual attire. It was a fun experience even though I’m a fairly big introvert and it was very out of my box to be talking to so many strangers in a group. Sometimes I think it’s great to step out of your comfort zone, and we met some very nice people. There are times when I wish I wasn’t so introverted, but it really is a struggle to step out of my comfort zone when it comes to that and I think those kinds of changes are done over a lifetime.

     

  • Catching up with Summer

    ByLisa Moorhouse

    I always think Summer is coming, I’m going to get so much done, etc., but that just doesn’t happen. My kids have been brutal so far this summer. My house is filled with the sounds of arguing sisters and bullying of their brother. Thankfully he loves to read so he can escape to a quiet place and avoid them. Even when we are outside they always seem to find something awesome to argue about like “she’s going down the wrong side of the driveway on her bike!”. Yikes! I know other moms out there understand this, but it just seems like this is the worst summer I’ve had for it. I am blaming them being at school all day long last year for making me not used to the constant noise, arguing, crying… and so on. As much as I hate the onset of winter and the cold that comes with it, I can’t wait for the start of the school year and hopefully my much happier kids!

    While my kids driving me insane is no excuse for not posting often, I will admit that by the end of the day, I just don’t want to. When the quiet comes I want to relax and just shut my brain off. Every time I get a good idea about something I want to post/rant about, I get sidetracked doing something else and never make it back over to my computer. The joys of being at home with your children, you very strongly resemble a person with severe ADHD.

    I feel bad when Corey gets home and the house isn’t shining in an extremely clean state, but deep down I know this is the real world and while some homes may seem that way (when people know you are coming over to visit), the reality is no one’s house can be that clean all the time and have children and pets (lets not forget the farm!). Speaking of, mowing 6 acres of pasture is a lot of work. Lazy work right, sitting on my butt, but it hurts my back and it’s sooo time consuming. An hour here and there at night when I can leaves me a lot less time for riding. My sanity is largely connected to my large herd beasts outside and I really need to up them in my priorities! Their care of course is at the top with the care of the kids, but riding requires another adult on location or else I’m stuck doing circles in the arena, which we’ve been doing a lot of lately.

    So yea, our summer has been good so far but I just don’t feel like I’m where I should be by now. I haven’t been running, not enough riding in my eyes, and the things around the house that I feel should be done just aren’t. Such is life I guess!

    Here’s hoping for more sanity, and updates to those who actually stop by the blog.

     

  • Christmas 2014

    ByLisa Moorhouse

    I missed a few days in the Christmas rush! Corey was off Christmas Eve through Sunday, which was a huge blessing for our family, but it also meant a lot less downtime for me to get on the blog! Christmas Eve we brought our dog home from the vet after getting spayed and then we went and picked up Corey’s daughter that he hasn’t seen since September (insert long dramatic story). We went to lunch with my parents since her mom now lives over close to them, and then we went into Grand Rapids and let the kids play at Catch Air. We had planned something more exciting but plans don’t always go the way we want. Catch Air worked out great for the kids as they got to run around and play as much as they wanted until it closed at 4 and Analise’s mom picked her up from us. We got her a couple Christmas presents to take home, stuff she could use like a box set of young reader chapter books and a cute outfit. All the kids got along really well the whole day, which was huge, seems like with Analise not coming over as often it’s more like having a friend come play for the day.

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    Abby, Analise, Bella, and Eli on top of the inflatable slide

     

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    They were so done with shopping.

    After Analise’s mom picked her up we went over to the mall to get my iPhone fixed, somehow the center button had broken and fallen off during the day. We got my phone fixed, the kids got to play again in the play area at the mall, and we walked around and did some shopping. It was a really long day, but fun for the most part. I decided to try to get a cute holiday photo of the kids in front of the giant Christmas tree, but they were tired and not thrilled about getting their photos taken! Eli seems to be my most difficult photo child lately, can’t seem to get a good shot of him to save my life. He is definitely my son although most of the time he is a clone of his father.

    When we got home we opened our family presents and then Christmas morning the kids got their gifts from Santa. We spent Christmas day up in Big Rapids with my Sister’s family and my parents and it was a nice day even though my sister’s family has been a bit under the weather.

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    Abby and Bella with their Build A Bear buys.

    Fast forward to Sunday after church, more shopping! The girls each got a $10 gift card to Build A Bear in their stockings and Eli got $10 to spend so of course we had to spend it right away. 😉 It was another long morning of shopping (honestly not my favorite thing to do), but I think everyone was pleased
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  • Corey's Birthday

    ByLisa Moorhouse

    Yesterday was Corey’s birthday! Hurray for 34! 😉 He thinks he is getting old but I’m convinced old is not a number but a state of mind. I fully intend to be riding my horses competitively into my 70’s.

    It was a super busy day for me, Corey loves a clean house so I did my best to clean up, but it’s a huge chore when the kitchen/front bathroom is under construction! I didn’t sit down for more than a few minutes the whole day! I spent the majority of my time working on getting the wallpaper border off of the bathroom so that we can hopefully paint soon, and wow is that a pain! There is even some of it still left to get off today.

    I had the kids make homemade birthday cards when they got home from school. They had fun drawing on them and using stickers to decorate. I probably spent the same amount of $ I would for 1 card from all of us, so I really liked this idea better. We had a yummy dinner and cake, of course! Since it was a Monday, Corey went to men’s group for church after dinner and the kids and I played a few games of Uno (or 1 really long game as when they won I let them come back in and play more). It was fun. I wish sometimes we weren’t as busy and we did stuff like that more often. It seems like there is always something going on, sports for me or the kids, errands, chores, construction projects, etc. It’s really nice to just say “that doesn’t matter” every once in a while and sit down and spend some good quality family time together. I love my kids! They were laughing and joking around, I can’t believe how much my girls have grown, playing Uno without much help and reading like rock-stars! Man has kindergarten changed them. <3

  • A little bit of Heaven

    ByLisa Moorhouse

    Today started off like any day, but it was rainy and cold outside so we did inside things. Chores, be lazy and watch movies, fun stuff like that. I watched A Little Bit of Heaven, and it was a good movie, maybe a good movie for me.

    I was never one of those people who was really open about feelings, I had them, but I didn’t feel like the rest of the world needed to know about them. I didn’t handle death well, not like I’d assume many people do, but it was one of those things I didn’t like to think about in any capacity. When Jake died my whole life turned upside down, and every day was a struggle. I was an emotional mess among other things. I never got to say “goodbye” to him, it all happened really fast, he wasn’t terminal and while he’d had a couple of close calls with death I still wasn’t ready for the reality of losing someone so close to me.

    I thought I handled it all pretty well, considering the circumstances, and I let myself try to fill the void and move on because the empty space left behind is hard to work around. I figured it out, maybe it took longer than it should have, but eventually I had to let go of the bandaid. When I did, I let myself be loved by someone I didn’t want to love me. I am so grateful for the man I am married to today. He loved me and was there for me every time I needed him, as a friend first, always. My best friend.

    His life was complicated, not that mine wasn’t, but really how much drama does one want in a lifetime? I didn’t want to deal with his drama, not because it was inconvenient, but because I didn’t want to feel that much pain, anxiety, and even love again. I always try to be strong, it’s what I’ve had to do. Put on the “I’m fine” smile and just do whatever is necessary. I got sick of people telling me stupid cliches like “God won’t give you more than you can handle”, “whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, etc.. I don’t think saying those things to someone who is struggling helps, if you don’t know what to say to someone in a situation just don’t say anything. I didn’t want to be strong, and I didn’t want to think about God giving me my struggles.

    So anyways. I am the person who doesn’t let myself cry (unless I’m -really- mad, then if I’m crying I’d suggest walking away). I don’t want to feel things, even still, it seems like when I open myself up there’s always pain involved. Maybe it’s fear, or avoidance, I just don’t like it. I watched that movie today, and I cried. More than once. It was a reminder of how lucky I am to have Corey in my life. Lucky that I have let my walls down for him, and maybe a reminder that I don’t have to be so strong every time something comes up. I’m sure it’s something I will struggle with forever, but I’ll have reminders along the way. Sometimes it’s good to let go.

One Comment

  1. You should try the crock pot liner bags! If I make something like macaroni and cheese that will most likely get baked onto the sides I use a liner bag and clean up is a breeze. The crock pot doesn’t sit “soaking” in the sink for days! 🙂 I found some on Amazon that I’m going to try that are a little bit cheaper than the Reynolds ones we usually buy at Meijer! I’ll let you know if they are any good after I try them!

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