Sold!

Sold my husband’s horse today. It’s sad in ways, he’s a great horse and it’s hard not to get attached, but my husband doesn’t have the time or the urge to ride often enough to make it worth him having his own horse. With 4 riding horses I’m overwhelmed with needing to ride them all to keep them in shape, and since I’ve been training this year (end of summer until now) for the marathon I haven’t been riding nearly enough.
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Bobbi used to be a show horse and now he’ll go back to that lifestyle and it’ll be good for him to get all the attention and work. While I don’t show myself, I know showing means your horse’s image matters and unhealthy horses don’t look good, so I won’t have to worry about him being taken care of. Also, he’s going to a little girl whose mom is buying him for her for Christmas. What an awesome Mom! So exciting, I have bought ponies for my kids before, but they don’t have the urge to ride yet and I’m waiting patiently for them to decide they got the horse bug! I’m excited to go see Bobbi and his girl when they go to fair next summer, Corey will pull out his big camera and thoroughly enjoy photographing the event I’m sure.

He is still with us now but he’ll be leaving Monday. I’m glad they didn’t want to just take him today because my husband wouldn’t have gotten to say goodbye. He really did enjoy Bobbi and I’m sure he will miss him. Bobbi taught him how to ride and I love that.

After Bobbi’s new owner left I did get to ride my mare Solace as well. It was a nice sunny day and not unbearably cold (this is huge for me!). She’s 6 and can be a pistol when we go to an endurance race, imagebut she hasn’t been ridden much this fall and she was an angel in the bosal today. I love how smart and trustworthy my Arabians are, they’ve had no special training, but at any age they seem to be able to retain everything they’ve learned even when they aren’t using it. This could also be bad obviously, if they’ve been taught bad manners, but mine have all been great fortunately.

We only rode in the arena a couple of miles worth, about 20 minutes, because I didn’t want her to get sweaty. After we finished I let her eat some of the grass that we’re so fortunate to have still. This December has been warm, and while the mud was really bothering me, it was nice to not be shoveling snow and freezing the last few weeks! It’s almost as if Michigan was trying to convince me that it’s not so bad here.

 

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    I’ve decided to try my hand at blogging. Since I’m brand new to this I’m totally open to constructive criticism! Feel free to comment or email lisa@notbalanced.com

    So, why Not Balanced? Well I’m a busy mom who is doing her best to balance family, sports, farm, health & fitness, business, etc… Honestly it’s a struggle daily, so in my search for a catchy website name I thought Not Balanced described my life perfectly! Yes, I am attempting daily to find balance, but reality is that even if I get close, I have to start all over again tomorrow!

    Some basic info on me for those who don’t know me:
    I’m a mom of 3, Eli is 8 and Abigail and Isabella are my 5 year old twin girls. I have an amazing husband Corey, who I married in April 2012 (after I was widowed in March 2010). We have a 6 acre farm in Hudsonville, Michigan and at this moment we have 6 horses, 2 dogs, 2 indoor cats, 4 barn cats, 2 finches, 17 laying hens, a rooster, and some fish. 5 of our horses are Arabians, and we have an adorable weanling pony that I’m hoping my girls will love raising. Our dogs are a Doberman we just adopted in November and my son’s daisy dog who we’ve had since he was a tiny puppy. For the most part I’m a stay at home mom, but I also am part of a network marketing company that sells health care products (skin care/vitamins/supplements). I don’t have to work but the extra money is nice and we love the products ourselves so it’s a win-win.

    I’m a dreamer, and a goal setter. I race my horses in endurance and push myself athletically, I’m currently training to run the Houston Marathon on January 18. My first and likely last marathon, it’s grueling, but I’ll be glad to say I did it! I used to love to write, still hoping someday to be able to finish a novel but thought blogging would be a good outlet for my writing needs while everything is so busy at home.

    Looking forward to blogging some of my experiences with attempting balance in my life. Hopefully it’s entertaining/informative and enjoyable to read for you all.

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    My mare Solace and I at AHAM endurance race in July 2014
  • Sick of winter

    Tonight we prep to get hit by another winter storm. I think everyone in Michigan is sick of it at this point. Bella is home from school with a headache that wouldn’t go away, had her drink a bunch of water and take a nap. Could we all just hibernate until spring? It’s cold and windy, I want to be outside riding the horses! Thankful at least for round bales as it makes our daily chore load a lot less when it’s 20 degrees.

    Shane was very full of it after being stalled overnight on the worst day.

    I’m struggling personally with the cold and lack of sunlight, fresh air! Just the thought of going out right now is depressing. I find that mostly these days people don’t care about others as much as they say they do, but sometimes sharing our struggles helps other people to know they aren’t alone in theirs. For all those struggling with getting through the last (hopefully) and hardest part of winter, I feel you! My horses feel it too I think. I love watching them play, even in the snow, but I know how much they love to run the big pastures and graze. We all are looking forward to the freedom we gain in the summer, long miles on wonderful trails, longer days and green grass. We can get through this. I have to do the self talk daily, “I will get through this, spring is close”. We’ve got this!

    Frodo with a snow blaze.
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    Corey and I passed on going out for NYE this year, instead we opted to go out on New Years Day. We got a great deal on a movie mystery dinner from living social and a friend that was also supposed to go got sick so we were able to get their tickets and my parents got to join us. It was a fun night and our first murder mystery dinner experience. We did go to a murder mystery Halloween party this year and it was super fun, but played out a lot differently than the dinners, it is what sprouted our interest in the dinner though. 🙂

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    We started off getting our photos taken, then we were seated with other couples at a table and that became our team. One person at each table (at least) got picked to be a suspect and play a role in the game, thankfully that was not me! The game got started and we ate our dinners in between times of “interviewing” where we would use play money and interview/bribe other suspects for secrets (clues). Some of the people dressed up for the theme, a 1950’s prom, but there were quite a few like us that just wore nice casual attire. It was a fun experience even though I’m a fairly big introvert and it was very out of my box to be talking to so many strangers in a group. Sometimes I think it’s great to step out of your comfort zone, and we met some very nice people. There are times when I wish I wasn’t so introverted, but it really is a struggle to step out of my comfort zone when it comes to that and I think those kinds of changes are done over a lifetime.

     

  • A little bit of Heaven

    Today started off like any day, but it was rainy and cold outside so we did inside things. Chores, be lazy and watch movies, fun stuff like that. I watched A Little Bit of Heaven, and it was a good movie, maybe a good movie for me.

    I was never one of those people who was really open about feelings, I had them, but I didn’t feel like the rest of the world needed to know about them. I didn’t handle death well, not like I’d assume many people do, but it was one of those things I didn’t like to think about in any capacity. When Jake died my whole life turned upside down, and every day was a struggle. I was an emotional mess among other things. I never got to say “goodbye” to him, it all happened really fast, he wasn’t terminal and while he’d had a couple of close calls with death I still wasn’t ready for the reality of losing someone so close to me.

    I thought I handled it all pretty well, considering the circumstances, and I let myself try to fill the void and move on because the empty space left behind is hard to work around. I figured it out, maybe it took longer than it should have, but eventually I had to let go of the bandaid. When I did, I let myself be loved by someone I didn’t want to love me. I am so grateful for the man I am married to today. He loved me and was there for me every time I needed him, as a friend first, always. My best friend.

    His life was complicated, not that mine wasn’t, but really how much drama does one want in a lifetime? I didn’t want to deal with his drama, not because it was inconvenient, but because I didn’t want to feel that much pain, anxiety, and even love again. I always try to be strong, it’s what I’ve had to do. Put on the “I’m fine” smile and just do whatever is necessary. I got sick of people telling me stupid cliches like “God won’t give you more than you can handle”, “whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, etc.. I don’t think saying those things to someone who is struggling helps, if you don’t know what to say to someone in a situation just don’t say anything. I didn’t want to be strong, and I didn’t want to think about God giving me my struggles.

    So anyways. I am the person who doesn’t let myself cry (unless I’m -really- mad, then if I’m crying I’d suggest walking away). I don’t want to feel things, even still, it seems like when I open myself up there’s always pain involved. Maybe it’s fear, or avoidance, I just don’t like it. I watched that movie today, and I cried. More than once. It was a reminder of how lucky I am to have Corey in my life. Lucky that I have let my walls down for him, and maybe a reminder that I don’t have to be so strong every time something comes up. I’m sure it’s something I will struggle with forever, but I’ll have reminders along the way. Sometimes it’s good to let go.

  • Christmas 2014

    I missed a few days in the Christmas rush! Corey was off Christmas Eve through Sunday, which was a huge blessing for our family, but it also meant a lot less downtime for me to get on the blog! Christmas Eve we brought our dog home from the vet after getting spayed and then we went and picked up Corey’s daughter that he hasn’t seen since September (insert long dramatic story). We went to lunch with my parents since her mom now lives over close to them, and then we went into Grand Rapids and let the kids play at Catch Air. We had planned something more exciting but plans don’t always go the way we want. Catch Air worked out great for the kids as they got to run around and play as much as they wanted until it closed at 4 and Analise’s mom picked her up from us. We got her a couple Christmas presents to take home, stuff she could use like a box set of young reader chapter books and a cute outfit. All the kids got along really well the whole day, which was huge, seems like with Analise not coming over as often it’s more like having a friend come play for the day.

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    Abby, Analise, Bella, and Eli on top of the inflatable slide

     

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    They were so done with shopping.

    After Analise’s mom picked her up we went over to the mall to get my iPhone fixed, somehow the center button had broken and fallen off during the day. We got my phone fixed, the kids got to play again in the play area at the mall, and we walked around and did some shopping. It was a really long day, but fun for the most part. I decided to try to get a cute holiday photo of the kids in front of the giant Christmas tree, but they were tired and not thrilled about getting their photos taken! Eli seems to be my most difficult photo child lately, can’t seem to get a good shot of him to save my life. He is definitely my son although most of the time he is a clone of his father.

    When we got home we opened our family presents and then Christmas morning the kids got their gifts from Santa. We spent Christmas day up in Big Rapids with my Sister’s family and my parents and it was a nice day even though my sister’s family has been a bit under the weather.

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    Abby and Bella with their Build A Bear buys.

    Fast forward to Sunday after church, more shopping! The girls each got a $10 gift card to Build A Bear in their stockings and Eli got $10 to spend so of course we had to spend it right away. 😉 It was another long morning of shopping (honestly not my favorite thing to do), but I think everyone was pleased
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  • Marathon Recap

    I had an AMAZING weekend in Houston! Sorry to have such a delayed post, but recovering from my race/trip has been easier in some ways than I expected and harder in others. I was only there for 3 days, but there was sunshine each day and it was beautiful! I am a sun girl, I’m happier and have way more energy and motivation when the sun is shining. I’ve had a hard time adjusting to not seeing it since I got home.

    The marathon was great, it hurt, but I finished! I didn’t get the time I wanted, but on your first imagemarathon, any time is a PR! 🙂 My official time was 5:47:58, finished with not much time to spare. I actually started off with a very good finishing time, but it was a bit faster than I usually can maintain and my joints definitely paid for it. I did do some walking at the end, and I got pretty upset with myself for it, but it’s ok! I had a really good team of motivators, and I don’t think I could have done it without them.

    My bff Allison lives in Houston with her family, her and her husband Charlie were my super fan club. They raced around and met me at different areas during the race. At mile 18 she had a poster they printed off of my kids holding a poster and I was crying, it was totally unexpected.image Even though I don’t see her often, this girl has a huge piece of my heart. I think you get few friends in life that mean as much to you as Allison does to me. If she needed me I’d be there for her in any way I could, even with all the miles between us, and I am sure she feels the same. Sometimes you get lucky, and you have a friend for life, even when the world separates you. 🙂

    I got to run with 2 awesome distance runners, the marathon was like a training run for them. One ran with me until about the half way point and the other got me across the finish line. On Saturday I met Kevin, the man who got me across the finish line, and Sunday morning I met Jean. It’s amazing to me to have 2 people, pretty much strangers, be so uplifting and motivating. They really made me feel like I could do it, and like I was a person who mattered. They took time to run with me, and lift me up and it made a huge impact on me.

    I was also hugely impacted by all the true strangers cheering along the entire race course. Wow! I told everyone I am going to have my kids make signs and we will go to the next big race locally and just cheer for strangers because it made such a huge impact on me! If you ever feel like you want to help others, an easy way to lift people up is to just go stand around mile 18-24 of a marathon and cheer!

    I was pretty resigned that I wouldn’t run another marathon again, but now I’m having second thoughts. My biggest worry is that it will impact my racing/training schedule for my horses, so we will see how it goes. My joints do not like running past mile 20 or so, but if I lost a little more bulk they might be ok. Only time will tell. I really like my medal, and honestly I was only really sore after the race when I was sitting around and on the flight home. I took Kevin’s advice though and wore my medal on the flight, it was kind of an explanation I think to those looking at me wondering why I was walking so funny. 😉

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